Money Meets Medicine Podcast
MMM 89: Personal Finance Masochism & Physician Self-Compassion
Have you ever felt the tension between needing to save more money (or pay down debt) and the human need to enjoy today? There is a phenomenon that happens in both coaching and personal finance, people learn the tools and then use the tools against themselves. So today we are discussing why you should make that big purchase you have been depriving yourself of and how to make sure you do it in a financially smart way.
Today I want to talk about that Porsche 981 Cayman S, house, or that expensive vacation you want, and how to get it. Learn how you can save for tomorrow while you also enjoying today.
Personal Finance Vs. Physician Self-Compassion
There is a phenomenon that happens in both coaching and personal finance. Once physicians, doctors (and really anyone) learns the tools they need to better themselves (or finances), they then use the tools against themselves.
Both Ryan and I see it all the time in the personal finance and coaching world.
That is exactly what inspired this show actually.
I was on a recent coaching call with one of our clients in the Alpha Coaching Experience (ACE). This doctor in ACE was beating herself up for having an expensive apartment in a big northeastern city.
Because she had a good understanding of personal finance, she was scrutinizing the dollars she was spending that could have been building wealth instead. She was telling herself that she should move to a less expensive apartment because it was the “right” thing to do.
But is it really? That’s the question I want to answer and discuss today.
Personal Finance And Physician Guilt
Is there a purchase you’ve been thinking about?
Maybe a Porsche 981 Cayman S like me? Or maybe you are thinking about buying a bigger, nicer home? Or as travel is finally open again, you might be looking at an expensive vacation for the family?
Or maybe you are like this doctor in ACE and have thought about getting rid of something you currently spend money on because you feel that money could be building wealth?
However, there is one big obstacle in your way – guilt. Because you are a part of the physician finance community, you feel guilty or bad about those decisions.
The answer isn’t all or nothing. You need to learn to find that balance between saving for tomorrow while also using money as the tool that it is to enjoy today. Let’s get into how.
Money is a TOOL
Did you ever watch the show Ducktails growing up? (Might be aging myself there). In the show, Scrooge swims in his gold coins often. That is NOT what life is about. That is not why we save or make smart financial decisions.
Money is not the end itself. It is not the goal. Money is a tool that allows you to reach maximum happiness. It is the means to an end, not the end itself.
What makes you happy? Those things are your goals and that is what you are using your money for. What you are saving for. Why you are investing. It might be something in the short term that makes you happy or something in the long term.
You need to build a plan that will allow you to reach your financial goals when you want.
Dial down in the areas that don’t matter as much to you, so you can dial up on the things that do.
Spend Money Without Guilt
Once you are meeting your financial goals, you should spend money without guilt and regret.
Ryan had a client saving $15,000 a month based on the changes she made in her life in terms of personal finance. And even though she was doing really well, she felt like she couldn’t have a cup of Starbucks coffee because of the tools she learned in personal finance. She was hitting her finance goals, but she couldn’t separate the rules of personal finance from the things she really wants and can afford.
For me, it’s a car. And I use to think, “I teach physician finance to students every day, how can I have a really nice and expensive car?” But it’s because I was also able to meet the other financial goals Kristen and I had. So why think, “I can’t have this,” when I am meeting my financial goals.
Personal Finance is Personal
Numbers in personal finance are completely arbitrary in nature. What you think you should be saving or making is all made up. You can base it on others and what they say you should be saving, but again that is completely arbitrary.
I always ask, “who gets to decide what is enough or a little?” The answer is YOU. There is always more money you can make and more you can save. But at what cost?
You need to approach your personal finance with compassion for yourself. Whenever you find yourself putting the would “should” into your statement, you are already bringing self-judgment into the conversation with yourself. Judgment is not going to serve you.
Get More Physician Finance Support
If you need and want more guidance on how to use the tools you are learning in the personal finance space in a compassionate way for yourself, I recommend checking out Ryan’s podcast episode on his Personal Finance Rules here and checking out my episode on my personal finance rules.
In these two episodes, we discuss things like The 10% Rule, The 50% Raise, and suggest amounts of money to save as a barometer. These episodes will give you a good foundation for reach your personal finance goals. Just remember that these goals should be based on what makes you happy and not an arbitrary number. And as you move forward, do it with compassion for yourself. Don’t use these tools against yourself, only to move you forward.
What is one thing you can take away from this? Do you find yourself using the personal finance tools you learn against yourself?
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