Slow down you crazy child. You’re so ambitious for a juvenile, but then if you’re so smart…tell me why are you still so afraid. Where’s the fire? What’s the hurry about? You better cool it off before you burn it out. You got so much to do and only so many hours in a day. ~ Billy Joel, ViennaBilly Joel had it right when he said that there are “only so many hours in a day.” When we focus only on our financial goals, we may set ourselves up to miss the point. While time in the market is one of the most important principles in investing, it is not everything. In the end, it’s not all about the Benjamins.
Keeping PerspectiveThere are many phrases in and out of pop culture to describe what Billy Joel sang about. Some people scream, “YOLO!” (You only live once). Others say things like “Life is too short.” They are all really getting at the same point, which is that life is limited for all of us. So, we should spend our time making the most of it. As a prior philosophy major, I have to mention that this line of thought can certainly lead to hedonism. (Hedonism = following whatever gives you the most pleasure). This is not what I have in mind. In fact, the most common thing you will hear me telling my kids is to put others first. I clearly don’t believe in hedonism. Yet, there is something to be said about life being too short. You have to live a little. And while there are tools (like The 10% Rule) that can help us to find this delicate balance, it remains difficult for many. Some really good books have been written about how spending money on things does not bring as much joy as we anticipate. Other research suggests that spending money on experiences with the ones we love is more likely to bring us joy.
Life really is too short
For any of the readers who work in medicine, it really is too obvious that life is short. Every day we see tragic cases of people who have died too young; too early; too soon.
This may, in part, explain why physicians are notoriously bad with money. We often take the short view and spend it all.
Memories on the TableWhile a big focus of this website is to promote ways to build wealth and live the moderately frugal life, a bigger picture focus is the “why.” Ultimately, we want to build wealth so that we can obtain financial independence. Ideally, this cuts the strings that bind us to things we may not enjoy. It also frees us up to take part in the things we do enjoy. The point is this. I don’t want to live a life full of regrets, and I don’t think you should either. My hope is to be able to look back and to say I lived my life to the fullest while I served the people around me. I want to be able to say I attended my kids recitals, games, and performances. Hopefully, we will have eaten a family dinner most nights and discussed the day’s events. I hope that my wife feels unwavering support for her both professionally and at home. At the end of the day, if I work hard and have slightly less money left on the table so that I could build more memories… I am perfectly okay with that. Sometimes I can hustle a little too hard on my side hustles. These are, of course, fine to work on. They just cannot happen at the expense of building memories.
Remember your “why”Like many things, we can have it both ways if we make a plan. We can build a life of memories while we build our wealth. It just requires us to be intentional with our decisions and intentional with our spending. What this post lacks in specific and practical advice, I hope it makes up in abstract concept. It is important to not put your life on hold so that you can save for some future date that may or may not happen. None of us are guaranteed to make it to retirement. Many people die just after they reached the promised land of retirement. And, even if we do make it, that retirement may or may not be better than your current life. So, live it up. Build those memories. Use some of that selective moderate frugality on experiences with the loved ones around you. Most of all, remember your “why” for building wealth and don’t forget to enjoy some of it now.
What do you think? Are you living a life that is building memories you’ll cherish? Are you missing the point waiting for that promised day to come? Share one of your favorite memories below in the comments!TPP